We have a different perception of love in comparison to years before. What people knew to be love was very different from today. The unspoken rules and actions of traditional love have shifted. In my opinion, thinking about how love was during my parents early ’20s was more wholesome and pure. Back then, people were more inclined to be “romantic.” Nowadays people don’t perceive love in the same way. As a 20-year-old in college, everyone (mostly) is stuck in this “hookup culture” mindset.
Even those who just recently left college are stuck in the rabbit hole of this culture. People view emotions as a bad thing, especially when it’s associated with love. Being open about feelings and wanting to be vulnerable has a lot of negative connotation. Being a “hopeless romantic” is seen to be unrealistic, but in reality many people are just closed off to the idea of doing gestures out of love. For example, holding the door open, giving flowers, listening intently, etc. Those acts of love aren’t committed as selflessly anymore. In college, dating is seen as more of a “casual affair,” unlike it was known to be before (formal dating).
Hookup culture is a less structured way of dating and has less “rules.” However, those “rules” can just be a way to lessen the amount of communication that has to occur. The mindset of hookup culture doesn’t allow for any emotional conversation or intimacy. It is harder to find people who want exclusivity and it might only get worse as time goes on. The idea of “hookup culture” has put a dent into the traditional ways of love and the meaning behind sexual encounters. Though this is very prominent in college, it creates an idea that there is no need to nurture deep connections anymore; that concept can carry onto peoples lives when they get older.
Hookup culture is a less structured way of dating and has less “rules.” However, those “rules” can just be a way to lessen the amount of communication that has to occur. The mindset of hookup culture doesn’t allow for any emotional conversation or intimacy. It is harder to find people who want exclusivity and it might only get worse as time goes on. The idea of “hookup culture” has put a dent into the traditional ways of love and the meaning behind sexual encounters. Though this is very prominent in college, it creates an idea that there is no need to nurture deep connections anymore; that concept can carry onto peoples lives when they get older.
Everyone’s perception of love varies from their own experiences, but these concepts of hookup culture make me wonder: where will everyone end up in terms of love as a society?
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ReplyDeleteI love this blog because I really think it captures the concept of love in today's society. I think hook up culture is really big now and personally, I hate it.
ReplyDeleteI love this article because it calls attention to the real issue! Our parents definitely didn’t engage in the hook up agenda so it’s crazy that changed.
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